I have a way to fix all of this, but its never been popular.
Basically, recognize that it takes two to tango then take the burden off the women.
When a male turns 13, they have to report to a federal health clinic to get a vasectomy. Its just like the draft only with a bag of frozen peas.
OK, you say, what about the birth rate?
No problem, if you want kids and you're in a stable relationship (for example, you've been married for five years) and you have money in the bank to support the child(ren) and you pass the medical tests that say you would father a healthy child, you go to court with proof of your relationship and some pay stubs and medical records. If the court agrees, you get the vasectomy reversed until you have enough children to make you happy. Then, you go back for another vasectomy.
This plan would work.
It would just be a pain in the balls.